When you start seeing someone new, there's little you want to do other than spend as much time with them, talking to them, and talking about them as possible. When it comes to constant communication during the workday though, too many checkins can get obtrusive — not to mention annoy your co-workers and be very, very distracting from the tasks at hand. We've all fallen prey to over-sharing with our significant others at one point or another, but in an effort to save your co-workers' sanity (and not to mention, increase your workday productivity), you should establish a few ground rules when it comes to communicating with your guy or gal during work hours.
- If you have unconfirmed plans, emails, and texts pertaining to your plans are allowed. Once you figure out what you're doing, it's time to shut it down. Or at least slow it down.
- If you don't have plans, a hello email is OK, but no more than four or five exchanges in any given "conversation," otherwise it's too much time and focus wasted.
To hear a few more rules to work with, just read more
The holidays are here, and you know what that means: time to switch into friends and family overdrive! Although you may be spending more time than usual with Aunt Laura, that doesn't mean you have to let your budding relationship with Mr. Fabulous go by the wayside — there's always technology to keep you two in touch. Check out some of my favorite tips to help you navigate the rocky waters between tech and dating.
I'm a pretty traditional, love at first sight kinda girl, but inspired by the Diary of an Online Dater on TresSugar I decided to see if love does lie on a site for me. Or rather, I decided to log in to Match.com after continual prodding and encouragement from friends and a fair number of dating blunders and letdowns IRL.
So, after a glass of wine one night, I logged in, set my age range and location and clicked to find matches within 10 miles. I didn't fill out any profile information, answer any questions about myself (aside from my area), and didn't upload a profile pic. As I waited for the results to churn, I expected the oddballs, scruffy dudes that can't talk to women, and Slick Ricks. Guess what? The first blinking picture was someone I already dated...in high school! It's been over a decade, but I could not believe it. He looks the same, sounds a bit more eloquent, but most of all, he was right there. Blinking. I could not believe it. After taking screenshots for evidence I was struck by how very odd it really is. I take some comfort in the fact that it wasn't Match magic or an algorithm, just location that matched us up, but it's still unbelievable. I've narrowed the possibilities down to: 1. We live in a small city 2. Fate 3. OMG the world is tiny 4. Get offline there's no one left!
While I have no intention of dating this guy, the situation has sparked endless questions and suggestions from friends. The main one being, "You at least have to say hi and share the story!" If I do, I'd rather it be in real life, because I am often off put by online flirting, but it all seems too weird. What's your advice and seriously, isn't this just a little too bizarre?
Major win for technology and dating: iChat with video, Google video chat, and FaceTime. My guy and I both have packed schedules, and between our work and our families on opposite sides of the country, there are some weeks we see more of each other via video chat than we do in person. When we're at home (or at least, away from other people), video chatting is fun. But there are some days when one of us is stuck somewhere (like an airport) for hours, and we need to sneak in some chat time. Convenient, yes. But the embarrassment factor? High.
So in this installment of Tech Dating 101, read my story and share your own after the break
I'm dating a new guy and he is great. Seeing stars, smelling wildflowers, and generally loving life. I'm thrilled to be completely comfortable with him and can see this becoming a healthy long term relationship. Here's the catch: I think it would be safe to classify him as a Facebook addict...or overshare-r. He's a jovial, friendly guy in real life and his online life is no exception — he has more than 1,000 friends and shares everything we do (save our most intimate moments) via pictures, mobile uploads and status updates. I'm on Facebook and have a few hundred friends, but I like to keep my private life private and mostly use it to keep in contact with old friends. I don't mind being tagged in photos here and there (I've set my privacy settings, tag away!), and the occasional status nod to how much he enjoys being with me is adorable, but I'm uncomfortable with how interactive he is online. We've had a healthy conversation about it and he understands I don't want my life blasted all over the internet, but I also don't want to ask him to change who he is and what he enjoys. Do you have any advice for dating someone with a completely different online attitude?
I met my guy's extended family for the first time over the weekend, and while it (thankfully!) went very well, I'm now stuck with a list of post-meeting tech related questions. First up: Facebook. We went to a party hosted by his sister, and as we said goodbye, she mentioned she'd post party photos on Facebook. I'd love to see them, but I'm not sure I'm ready to friend his sister. Not because I don't like her (I do!) or I'm worried about her checking out my personal information or photos, but because of other potentially bad repercussions.
I'd like to add a bit of a disclaimer to this post. Last time I posted a Facebook friend question, most of you responded by telling me Facebook friending and photo-tagging were no big deal, and that I may have been overreacting. But here's the thing: I do reserve Facebook for close friends because of all of the personal information that I share on the site — photos, status updates, links that I want to share with a closed network of people. So I am fairly discriminating when it comes to adding friends.
To hear about a few other reasons why I may be hesitant to invite his family to my Facebook circle, and to give your thoughts on the matter, just read more
This Valentine's Day, my guy showed up carrying a dozen orange roses, and I greeted him with a card — the old-fashioned kind made from paper that you sign with a pen. Then this morning, a co-worker walked over to me with a stack of actual photos that she took on a recent night out with the two of us, and I realized they were the first physical photographs I had of us together. While we do our best not to let my techy side replace some more traditional relationship details (hence the roses and paper Valentine), sometimes the technological replacement is better — I prefer storing hundreds of digital photos on my hard drive and only printing a few choice picks, for example.
But it got me thinking . . . Is too much tech changing our perception of romance? Think about it: when I first started dating (and this was not very long ago), hardly anyone had a cell phone, much less a text messaging plan. If you wanted to ask someone out, you called. If you wanted to send them a thoughtful Valentine, you mailed it, or you called. That's not to say I don't look forward to a sweet text or email from my sweetie — in many cases, technology makes dating easier. And it certainly makes breaking up easier (or at least less confrontational). There are even tech-centered marriage proposals.
Maybe I'm being a little too old-fashioned or hopelessly romantic, but I hope that my handwritten notes and real flowers never stop coming. And I really hope that in fifty years, people aren't equating these sweet gestures as old-fashioned as tossing a rock against your beau's window at night, which for the record, I still think is totally romantic.
The hype surrounding Motorola's Droid is understandable — for the first time, a phone has really started to give the iPhone a run for its money. Although phones can be polarizing, my guy and I have agreed to disagree on our top phone picks: he's a Droid, while I'm an iPhone.
This weekend, we took a road trip south from San Francisco down California's famed Route 1, and as we approached our first destination, we realized neither of us knew exactly where we were going. It was a race for GPS directions.
Who took home the prize for the fastest directions? Both phones successfully run Google Maps, though the Droid's mapping feature was a bit faster than my iPhone's. However, once we tried to find our way from a restaurant back to our hotel, the Droid and iPhone suggested completely different routes. So which phone won the GPS debate? Find out when you read more
One cool Twitter benefit: you can find and follow just about anyone — friends, celebrities, or even people you don't know. One potentially scary Twitter feature: you can be found and followed by just about anyone. Sure, you can easily lock your account so you have to approve every person who wants to follow your updates, but some users don't necessarily want to use Twitter in that way.
Recently, a friend of mine (who because of her job has nearly 1,000 Twitter followers) ran into a Twitter snafu. Someone who she didn't know asked her out via a Twitter @reply. It's not necessarily the actual reply (or the ability for a stranger to reply to her) that freaked her out — after all, it is the nature of Twitter. Her problem is that he seemed like a pretty cool guy. One that she might actually consider going out with had she met him in person. She didn't want to ignore him, but was wary of committing to a date without getting to know him, and sadly 140 characters aren't enough for a sufficient introduction.
She ended up direct messaging him in response, since you are able to DM people who follow you, even if you don't follow their updates. She included her email address and asked him to write her. What do you think? Did she make the right move? Has this happened to you? And would you have handled the situation differently?
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Really, Facebook? I guess it was only a matter of time until the service (which I admittedly use as a crutch for remembering friends' birthdays) delved into anniversary territory. Now when you change your relationship status to "In a Relationship," "Engaged," or "Married," you're prompted to enter your anniversary date. And if you enter it, Facebook not only reminds your friends of your upcoming anniversary, it reminds you as well!
I'm not sure what it is about this feature, but something about it makes me giggle. Admittedly, Facebook can be a relationship game-changer. From a guy hiding behind his Facebook profile to knowing when to change your relationship status, it creates its fair share of challenges. Obviously, adding anniversary reminders to your profile is one aspect of technology that makes dating easier, but I'm thinking if you need a Facebook reminder to remember, it may be a relationship red flag. What do you think? Is including an anniversary date on your profile a little too much information, or is it fair game?